As soon as Lavan gets wind of Yaakov's escape, the Torah reports how Lavan 'took את אחיו — his brethren with him to pursue' Yaakov.
After Lavan's confrontation with Yaakov they come to terms and make a treaty.
Yaakov takes a stone creating a monument to commemorate this covenant with Lavan. He then 'speaks לאחיו — to his brethren, to 'gather stones', fashioning a platform to eat upon.
After Yaakov and Lavan both respectively name the monument Galeed/ Yegar-sahadusa, expressing how this landmark will serve as a witness to their commitment to the pact, Yaakov slaughters animals in preparation of a feast and 'summons לאחיו — his brethren, to break bread'.
The evident question is that neither Lavan and Yaakov are known to had 'brothers', so who are these 'bros' referring to.
Rashi, based on the Targum Yonoson, clarifies the references.
The 'brothers' Lavan enlisted to his posse alludes to קרוביו — his kinsmen.
When Yaakov instructs his 'brothers' to gather stones, he was talking to בניו — his children, who were to him like brothers, drawing near him לצרה ולמלחמה — for trouble or for war.
Lastly, when Yaakov throws a feast for his 'brothers', it is referring לאוהביו שעם לבן — to his friends who were with Lavan.
Why the obfuscation?
Why did the Torah utilize the term of 'brothers' to indicate three varied categories of individuals who may be classified, and considered as brothers, rather than clearly and simply stating respectively, kinsmen; children; friends?
There is an ancient discussion, attributed to Aristotle, and referenced by none other than the Maharal and many other notable Torah sages, as to the accurate definition of a true friend.
There are friendships of utility, or often described as 'opposites attract', based on what the other can do for you and you in return. It is not centered on appreciation of character as much as it is about what skill he may have in assisting me, and my unique talent that can serve him. When my need for his competence is no longer needed, the friendship often dissolves.
Then there is a friendship of pleasure, where people join in common experiences of pleasure or emotion, finding a comforting association with others in mutual interests. This is often based on the human need for companionship, which commonly helps those who lack self-esteem find solace by connecting to others. Here as well, it is not established on valuing the other's character per se, just finding some level of 'self-worth' as at least a partner to someone else's shared interests.
Finally, there is friendship of virtue, where two self-sufficient equals appreciate the noble qualities of the other seeking a friendship that will inspire each other towards growth in becoming a better person.
The devious Lavan, a man who stands for nothing other than self-promotion and gain, a man willing to sacrifice his own children's welfare on the altar of his personal ambitions, enlists his 'kinsmen' — his lackeys, to join him in the pursuit of the 'traitor' Yaakov. These pawns most certainly lacked character and merely pledged allegiance to Lavan in their drive for their own personal gain and pleasure.
The vacuous Lavan cannot exist without a support staff of flunkies to give him an illusion of worthiness.
The Torah also reports how when Lavan arrives, ותקע — he stationed, את אחיו — his kinsmen, on Mount Gilead.
The Holy Kohen of Tzefas, the Sifsei Kohen, quotes a Midrash that translates the word ותקע, literally, describing Lavan blowing a horn to summon his 'brothers', his dogs — man's best friend. A dog is merely a companion that offers comfort, but certainly not a friend of virtue. Perhaps the Torah cites this detail to highlight the deficient nature of those who join in the friendship of illusory support.
The Torah sought to portray an appearance of brotherhood that is laced with artificial filler — a friendship of pleasure.
Yaakov and his children are bonded like no others. They all possessed an admiration for the greatness inherent within each other that inspired them to forge a nation that will attain true brotherhood, standing up for one another 'in times of trouble and war' — a friendship of virtue.
When Yaakov prepares a feast for 'his friends who are with Lavan', likely these were those among Lavan's staff who were wise enough to befriend Yaakov realizing his greatness and the benefit they would gain by rubbing shoulders with him, reaping as well from his blessings — a friendship of utility.
At the end of last week's portion, the Torah records how Yitzchok sends Yaakov 'to Lavan the son of Besuel the Aramean, אחי רבקה — the brother of Rivkah, the mother of Yaakov and Esav.'
This verse we are taught reveals to us how the influence of Lavan, the 'brother' of Rivkah, found its expression in the 'brother' of Yaakov — Esav, through the agency of Rivkah. Esav being the magnification of the flawed character of Lavan.
In the beginning of next week's portion, we find Yaakov appealing to G-d saying, "Rescue me, please, from the hand of אחי — my brother, from the hand of Esav…"
Perhaps after Yaakov learned the lesson of the various disguises of 'brotherhood' that prodded by selfish motivation and complacent comfort — he prayed to G-d to save him from his duplicitous 'brother' Esav.
May we each be astute in avoiding the pitfalls of inauthentic friendships.
We must 'know our bro' and connect to each other in genuine appreciation of each other's character and qualities, growing closer to each other and inevitably to Hashem!
באהבה,
צבי יהודה טייכמאן