Sivan Rahav-Meir / The Daily Portion, Devarim / To criticize in an appropriate way
By: Sivan Rahav-Meir/Translation by Yehoshua Siskin
This week we begin reading the book of Deuteronomy. It consists entirely of Moshe Rabbeinu's farewell address to the nation of Israel. Moshe Rabbeinu begins with a rebuke of the spies' negative report regarding the Land of Israel and the people's subsequent regrets about leaving Egypt. However, we can learn from this and later rebukes about the elements that constitute appropriate criticism:
1. Delay. Moshe Rabbeinu delays his critique until the end of the nation's journey through the desert and only now, just before his passing and the people's entering the Land of Israel, does he refer in retrospect to the nation's errors. With a perspective gained through the passage of time, things look differently. It's never okay to react out of anger in the here and now. Before we offer any reproach, it is advisable to take a deep breath.
2. Respect. Moshe Rabbeinu mentions the places in which sins occurred without going into detail. It's not necessary to flood people's consciousness with their past mistakes. As Rashi comments: "He did not recall their sins explicitly, but only alluded to them (by the names of the places where they occurred), out of respect for Israel."
3. Love. There is a type of criticism whose purpose is to insult and to denigrate, but constructive criticism is achieved through true concern. Moshe Rabbeinu has already proved how much he loves the nation. He stood by them during difficult trials, and was a faithful and devoted shepherd all along the way. It's not easy to accept criticism, but when it comes from Moshe Rabbeinu, the people know that it's truly for their benefit.
4. Faith. Constructive criticism does not only come from love, but from the belief that those criticized are capable of change and improvement. Moshe Rabbeinu has enormous faith in the people's potential. He knows there is a magnificent mission that they are capable of fulfilling in the Land of Israel, from where a uniquely inspiring message will be delivered to the entire world.
May we learn to criticize in an appropriate way and be open to criticism about ourselves as well.
Sivan Rahav-Meir (Eyalbenyais)
This week we begin reading the book of Deuteronomy. It consists entirely of Moshe Rabbeinu's farewell address to the nation of Israel. Moshe Rabbeinu begins with a rebuke of the spies' negative report regarding the Land of Israel and the people's subsequent regrets about leaving Egypt. However, we can learn from this and later rebukes about the elements that constitute appropriate criticism:
1. Delay. Moshe Rabbeinu delays his critique until the end of the nation's journey through the desert and only now, just before his passing and the people's entering the Land of Israel, does he refer in retrospect to the nation's errors. With a perspective gained through the passage of time, things look differently. It's never okay to react out of anger in the here and now. Before we offer any reproach, it is advisable to take a deep breath.
2. Respect. Moshe Rabbeinu mentions the places in which sins occurred without going into detail. It's not necessary to flood people's consciousness with their past mistakes. As Rashi comments: "He did not recall their sins explicitly, but only alluded to them (by the names of the places where they occurred), out of respect for Israel."
3. Love. There is a type of criticism whose purpose is to insult and to denigrate, but constructive criticism is achieved through true concern. Moshe Rabbeinu has already proved how much he loves the nation. He stood by them during difficult trials, and was a faithful and devoted shepherd all along the way. It's not easy to accept criticism, but when it comes from Moshe Rabbeinu, the people know that it's truly for their benefit.
4. Faith. Constructive criticism does not only come from love, but from the belief that those criticized are capable of change and improvement. Moshe Rabbeinu has enormous faith in the people's potential. He knows there is a magnificent mission that they are capable of fulfilling in the Land of Israel, from where a uniquely inspiring message will be delivered to the entire world.
May we learn to criticize in an appropriate way and be open to criticism about ourselves as well.
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Baltimore, MD – Aug. 20, 2025 - Tomorrow, Thursday, Aug. 21, is Yom Kippur Koton, a special opportunity to daven on behalf of Acheinu B'nei Yisroel in Eretz Yisroel and around the world.
Please note the following Yom Kippur Koton / Mincha Minyanim in town: (If you know of any others, please let us know so we may add them to this list.)
Agudah of Park Heights Rabbi Moshe Heinemann – 1:45 PM (Upstairs, 3rd floor)Mercaz Torah U'TefillahZidichover Rebbe - 1:45PM (with the Mincha Gedolah Minyan)
Khal Ahavas Yisrael Tzemach Tzedek (KAYTT) Rabbi Dovid Heber – 2:00 PM 📍 Ezras Noshim open for women.
Community Kollel – 2:45 PM
Agudah of Park Heights Rabbi Moshe Heinemann – 6:55 PM (Upstairs, 3rd floor)
Darchei Tzedek Rabbi Yaakov Horowitz ...
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For American families and investors looking for the perfect combination of strong values and smart living, Jerusalem’s newest neighborhood, Givat Hamatos, is emerging as one of the most attractive opportunities on the market today.
Developed by the acclaimed Ram Aderet Group, Givat Hamatos is more than just another apartment project. It is a full neighborhood — a thoughtfully designed, vibrant dati community where dozens of Anglo families have already purchased homes. For those who dream of living in Jerusalem or are seeking a wise real estate investment, this is a rare chance to secure property in a prime location at prices that are still surprisingly accessible.
A Neighborhood with Character Unlike the massive high‑rise towers increasingly common in Jerusalem, Givat Hamat...
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Baltimore, MD – Aug. 15, 2025 – BJL deeply regrets to inform the community of the petira of Mrs. Eva Kahn, a''h, mother of Chaim (Esther) Kahn, Yehudis (Binyamin) Benjamin and Mayer (Chaya) Kahn.Shiva is being observed at 2325 Blackberry Rd., Baltimore, MD 21209 from August 19–22.Minyanim:Shacharis: Wednesday, Thursday, Friday 7:30AMMincha/Maariv: Tuesday, Wednesday, Thursday: 7:40PM:
בלע המוות לנצח
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Baltimore, MD - Aug. 18, 2025 - I'm writing to you today with a very personal request.
My brother Irwin has been battling liver cancer and non-alcoholic cirrhosis. His only curative option at this point is a living donor liver transplant.
The liver is a truly amazing organ—it regenerates. A healthy person can donate a portion of their liver, and it will grow back to full size within weeks. This incredible gift could save Irwin’s life.
We are looking for a healthy individual between the ages of 18 and 60 with blood type A+, A-, O+, or O-.
Irwin is currently being evaluated at several of the nation's top transplant centers, including:
- Johns Hopkins Hospital (Baltimore) - NYU Langone Health (New York City) - University of Maryland Medical Center (Baltimore)
Irwin...
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Baltimore, MD – Aug. 19, 2025 – BJL regrets to inform the community of the petira of Rabbi Ari Flamm, z”l, husband of Hadassah Flamm, father of Efy (Penina) Flamm, Aviva (Yossi) Rosenberg, Yossi (Chani) Flamm, Shoshi (Binyomin) Benjamin, Yisroel Meir Flamm, Shaul (Raizy) Flamm, Shira (Naftoli) Chayn, and Dovid (Rivky) Flamm, and brother of Rabbi Gershon Flamm.
The levaya will be held today, Tuesday, at 2:30 PM at Bais Yaakov (Smith Avenue).Click here to watch the Levayah Livestream The kevurah will take place at the Chevra Ahavas Chesed Cemetery 9780 Liberty Road, Randallstwon, Md 21133Shiva will be observed at 6105 Biltmore Avenue, Baltimore, Maryland 21215Please no visitors between the hours of 12:00 p.m. and 1:00 p.m. and 6:00 p.m. a...
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Looking for your dream home or a smart investment in Israel? Join us for an insider look at three incredible Jerusalem projects—right from the comfort of your home in Baltimore! Explore opportunities in the Greek Colony, New Katamon, and Mekor Chaim, neighborhoods with growing Anglo and Modern Orthodox communities. With prices starting under $1 million for a 3-bedroom, 2-bath apartment, these properties are perfect for families, investors, or anyone ready to secure a spot in Jerusalem’s most sought-after areas.
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Baltimore, MD - Aug. 20, 2025 - The Mitzvah Motivators Summer Masmidim 25th (or so) annual All-The-Brachos-You-Can-Make Buffetwill be held at mitzvah motivators world headquarters:7000 Rockland Hills DrSunday, August 24From 4:30 – 6 pmThe buffet is for Mitzvah Motivators participants and prize sponsors only. You must bring along your completed form for either the first or second session.For sponsorships, minimum donation is $100Family sponsorship minimum is $180Donations can be Zelled to 443-465-4066If you would like to sponsor a picture of Abraham Lincoln for the Mitzvah Motivator raffle, feel free to bring a crisp picture or a fungible equivalent.For HCC Separate Swim, please visit mitzvahmo.com or call 410-764-3474.Please spread the word!
Baltimore, MD - Aug. 21, 2025 - With the start of the school year approaching, Maryland officials are reminding drivers about state laws requiring them to stop for school buses and the significant penalties for violations.
State law requires all drivers to stop when they encounter a stopped school bus, but enforcement data shows many motorists continue to ignore this safety requirement.
Last school year, Maryland issued 20,000 automatic citations for drivers who illegally passed school buses.
However, officials believe the actual number of violations may be much higher since only nine out of Maryland's 24 school districts have automatic enforcement cameras on their buses.
Costly consequences for violations
Drivers who pass stopped school buses face substantial financial penaltie...
Baltimore, MD – Aug. 21, 2025 - BJL wishes a hearty Mazel Tov to Ozzie and Miriam Marizan on the birth of a son
Mazel Tov grandparents Aiton & Deborah Marizan and Shmuel and Adina Tarshish
Mazel Tov to the great-grandparents Rafi Marizan and Nancy Marizan and Mrs. Elaine Taragin and Hanna Zehnwirth and Ethel Tarshish
Mazel Tov Great Great Grandmother Sylvia Potash
יה"ר שיזכו לגדל בנם לתורה, לחופה, ולמעשים טובים. אמן!
New York - An appeals court has thrown out the massive civil fraud penalty against President Donald Trump, ruling Thursday in New York state’s lawsuit accusing him of exaggerating his wealth.
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After finding that Trump engaged in fraud by flagrantly padding financial statements that went to lenders and insurers, Judge Arthur Engoron ordered him last year to pay $355 million in penalties. With interest, the sum has topped $515 million.
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Baltimore County, MD - Aug. 20, 2025 - The Baltimore County Department of Public Works and Transportation has approved a request my office received for curb cut ramps on Slade Avenue, specifically between Seven Mile Lane and Park Heights Avenue.
With an increased number of pedestrians in this corridor, it’s critical that we continue upgrading and providing the necessary infrastructure to allow folks to safely travel to and from their destinations on foot.
Work on the curb cut ramps is expected to be completed within the next 12 months, pending weather and scheduling.
Baltimore, MD - Aug. 20, 2025 - Ed Hale Sr. announced his candidacy for Governor of Maryland on Wednesday morning.
The announcement took place at Canton Waterfront Park.
Hale outlined his vision and priorities for the state, and focused on economic growth, public safety, education, and quality of life.
The owner of the Baltimore Blast, Hale is now 78-years-old, and originally announced his intentions to run for governor as a Democrat in May.
"I was the worker kid, cutting the grass, painting houses, things like that," he said in May.
The self-made businessman has a wide range of professional experience. With no family money or college education, he went on to join the military before becoming the CEO of First Mariner bank, which went bankrupt during the Great Recession and w...
So who is the oldest Jew in the world? Last week I wrote here about the 105th (!) birthday of Renee Binstock. This week, I was delighted to hear from the Mamo family; compared to their grandmother, Renee is practically a youngster. Their grandmother, Aliza Mamo, will soon celebrate her 106th birthday.
Her grandson, Ilan Shevah, relates: “Grandma was born on the island of Djerba, Tunisia, in 1919. As a child and teenager she was active and full of energy—helping the elderly, running errands for her parents, dashing through the narrow alleys of the Jewish quarter. She grew up under the influence of Djerba’s sages and righteous men, absorbing holiness and yirat Shamayim.
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Jerusalem, Israel -Aug. 20, 2025 - The Train Theater’s 34th International Puppet Festival opened in Jerusalem, Israel, Sunday night, August 17, with a vibrant celebration of creativity.
The opening night was attended by Jerusalem Mayor Moshe Lion, Train Theater CEO Kobi Frig, the theater’s board members, Artistic Director Shahar Marom, and Tamar Berliner, head of the Jerusalem Municipality’s Department of Culture and Arts, along with an audience of cultural figures and guests of all ages.
Attendees enjoyed a special preview of the new outdoor complex, “X Mix,” in Liberty Bell Park and were invited to watch the festival’s opening performances. The festival runs through Thursday, August 21, featuring premiere productions, international artists...
Tel Aviv, Israel - Aug. 20, 2025 - 225 Olim from North America arrived this morning at Ben Gurion Airport aboard Nefesh B’Nefesh’s 65th charter Aliyah flight. This specially chartered EL AL flight, carried out in partnership with Israel’s Ministry of Aliyah & Integration, The Jewish Agency for Israel, Keren Kayemeth LeIsrael, and Jewish National Fund-USA, marks not only the first charter flight since the Iron Swords War began, but also contributes to a historic peak in Aliyah. This August will see more than 1,000 new immigrants arriving in Israel, the highest monthly total in over 20 years. Since the events of October 7th, over 7,000 new immigrants from North America have made Aliyah, underscoring an extraordinary commitment to the Zionist dream in the face of o...
Baltimore, MD - Aug. 20, 2025 - This morning was nothing short of extraordinary! Our kids had the thrill of a lifetime riding with the incredible Mitzvah Riders, whose energy and generosity made the experience truly unforgettable. A heartfelt thank you to David and Wendy Hefter of the Chanukah House of Pikesville for coordinating this special event and making it possible. Your dedication brings so much joy and excitement to our children—what a meaningful way to start the day!Camp Simcha Without Borders, a project of Chai Lifeline Mid- Atlantic, provides a week of fun and connection for familes navigating a medical journey. Thank you to our gracious hosts David and Rachel Warschawski for hosting our kids for the 6th year!! #Community #MitzvahRiders #Gratitud...