[Ed. Note] Out of the respect and recognition of the impact made by longtime BJL friend and contributor, Reb Shaya Gross, z’l, we will maintain a living memoriam to Shaya through the sweet words and thoughtful insights of  his Divrei Torah. BJL readers will remember his weekly column on the Parsha and on various Torah ideas and concepts. These meaningful words will help us remember this special young man who will be sorely missed and for those who did not merit to know him, this will be the most appropriate way for them to become familiar with who he was.

The Gemara in Brachos says about one who has a set place for davening, 'The G-d of Avraham will help him, and when he dies people can say about him 'woe to us that we lost such a humble person'...
What does a set place for davening have to do with humility??
My Rebbi, Rav Kalman Weinreb, explained in the name of Rav Bergman shlita, as follows: Why would a person move around and switch seats? A person can think to his self, 'I couldn't have concentration in that seat because the guy next to me was davening too loud. I couldn't have concentration in that seat because the heat or a.c. was blowing right on me...' He will keep hopping around from place to place blaming the surroundings for the lack of concentration. However, a Yid who designates a specific place for davening is saying 'if I didn't have kavana [or wasn't successful in what I was davening for], it wasn't Yankel's fault, it wasn't the heat's fault, it was my own fault. I will try again from that very same place.'

That was exactly what Avraham Avinu did.  Avraham davened that the people of Sedom should be spared destruction but was unsuccessful in saving them. Immediately after relating that Sedom was destroyed, the Torah tells us that Avraham went back to the same spot where he had davened for the people of Sedom to pray for something else!

 Taking personal responsibility is the definition of humility, and shirking that responsibility is conceit. 

The Mishna in Avos tells us that one of the three attributes that differentiate a student of Avraham from a student of Bilam is that the student of Avraham has a HUMBLE spirit [as we have shown] and the student of Bilam has an ARROGANT spirit.

 Where do we find Bilam being arrogant?
We find it in this week’s Parsha with exactly the same scenario! Bilam tries to curse Klal Yisroel and is unsuccessful. Balak then takes Bilam to another place and then another place to try to curse Klal Yisroel. A humble person, as we said, would say 'no, I'm not going to move or switch. I am going to go to the same place and try again'. But Bilam the Baal Gaayva listens to Balak and keeps trying in other places, blaming the former place for his inability to curse!

The Mishna in Avos concludes, 'we will enjoy the fruit of our good deeds in this world and inherit the world to come'. Some people think that if you live an immoral life and do what you want with no rules and boundaries, then although you will lose out in the world to come, you will at least enjoy this world. The truth is that such a person will not enjoy this world either. Not only will he live a meaningless life, but he will also fall prey to his bad midos. His jealousy, lusts, and ego will control him and never allow him to be satisfied with what he has. But a person who has good midos and strives to do the will of Hashem in the long run will enjoy even this world much more than the person with bad midos. Hence the Mishna says that someone with good midos enjoys both worlds, whereas someone with bad midos has nothing in either world.

  May we all follow in the footsteps of our forefather Avraham by emulating his midos to the best of our ability.