I was sitting in my office when my wife called to tell me that she was stuck in traffic. Why? Because there were a bunch of ducks crossing the road. I told her, “I guess you’d call this rubberducking as opposed to rubbernecking!” We both got a good quack. Bad joke, my apologies, moving right along. 

Rubbernecking, a term that originated in the late 1800s to describe the act of turning the neck to eavesdrop, is a phenomenon that occurs when drivers take their eyes off the road to look at a distraction, such as an accident or arrest. Rubbernecking is a form of distracted driving that can be as dangerous as texting or talking on the phone while driving. As drivers pass by the “morbid” scene, they feel a psychological urge to look, which causes them to slow their driving, and as such, this action creates a ripple effect, and all cars behind them are forced to slow down as well; alas, traffic is created! 

According to the AAA, a study published in the Journal of Transportation Technologies found that about 10% of motor vehicle crashes are caused by rubbernecking, which also resulted in an average delay of 107 vehicle-hours (the culminative amount of time lost by all motorists traveling past the site). 

My friends, there is a deeply profound message that we can learn from here. You see, the rubbernecking phenomenon demonstrates to us so clearly that the more we look and focus on others, the more we get slowed down ourselves. The more we choose to focus our attention on other people’s journeys, mishaps, and shortcomings, the more we “slow down” in our own spiritual pursuit of growth. Our life’s mission of ascending the ladder of greatness requires that we focus on ourselves, on our own journey, on our strengths and shortcomings.  

Elul, we know, stands for אני לדודי ודודי לי, translated as: I am to My Beloved (Hashem), and My Beloved (Hashem) is to me. During the auspicious time period of self-reflection, inner-identity, and repentance, there is a focus on אני – me, myself, and I. Hashem created you for you to be you

So many people, aside from doing it on the physical road, end up rubbernecking along their journey of the figurative road of life. They constantly get slowed down because they are focused and distracted by everything and everyone else. This is a mighty dangerous way to live. In fact, it is not a way to live, it is a way to die, to spiritually be deprived of the vitality that the soul is so thirsty and yearning for. 

The Mitzvah of Bikkurim, which is the opening of our Parshah – Ki Savo – teaches us about the importance of being makir tov – recognizing the good. Of course, we must be makir tov when it comes to our relationship with Hashem and with others, but let us not forget to be makir tov when it comes to our own selves. Let us focus and look inward, focus on our goodness, and keep striving for greatness. 

Have a holy Shabbos!