Have you ever heard of Eisoptrophobia? Don’t worry if you didn’t, I too never heard about it until I heard about it. Eisoptrophobia is an unhealthy fear of mirrors. Some people fear mirrors due to self-image issues. According to the Cleveland Clinic, people who suffer from this fear of mirrors, may also have atelophobia (fear of imperfection), cacophobia (fear of ugliness), chromophobia (fear of colors), koinoniphobia (fear of rooms), obesophobia (fear of gaining weight), sanguivoriphobia (fear of vampires), and thanatophobia (fear of death). 

From a spiritual perspective, there is a lot to talk about when it comes to mirrors, whether it be self-image, reflection, and introspection, etc. In this essay, though, I’d like to share with you a simple yet profound insight from the Baal Shem Tov HaKadosh on the topic of mirrors and how it deeply connects with the mitzvah in Parshas Kedoshim (19:18) of ואהבת לרעך כמוך – You shall love your friend like yourself.  

The Rebbe explains that a Tzaddik Gamur (a completely righteous person) who doesn’t have any negativity internally, will not see negativity in another person. However, when someone does see negativity in another person, this phenomenon can be likened to the mirror-effect. A mirror merely reflects that which is in front of it. For example, if your face is dirty and you look in the mirror, your face will appear dirty in the mirror as well. On the flip side, however, if your face is clean, your face will appear clean in the mirror as well. Afterall, this is obvious, for this is the nature of a mirror, to reflect the reality of whatever is in front of it. In his words, כמו שהוא כך רואה – a person sees based on his perception of who he is. 

In the realm of basic psychology and human understanding, this concept is known as projection. Humans have a tendency to use their mental process of attributing to others what is in their own minds. What we perceive as wrong or negative about someone else is often due to the fact that we ourselves struggle from that very thing.  

The mitzvah to “Love your friend like yourself” teaches us to use projection in a positive way. Deep down, a person is generally forgiving of one’s own self. Despite the negative traits inside a person, he is willing to overlook those faults, see the G-dliness within, and not hate himself. This deeply rooted belief in one’s inner G-dliness (i.e., the neshama) should be projected upon others as well, and we should strive to be forgiving and not hate others because of their negative traits. 

We all have faults. We all mess up. But what truly makes us all in common is the fact that we have a chelek of G-dliness within us, a Divine Soul, that is so holy and pure. 

Let’s be forgiving and loving towards ourselves, and strive to project that same inner-belief towards our fellow brothers and sisters as well. 

Have a holy Shabbos!